How to Tell Your Mom You Want to Plan Your Own Wedding
Most mothers believe that they will participate in the planning their daughter's wedding. This is more so since in the past the parents were responsible for the planning of their children's wedding. This tradition has over the years been changing with the brides and grooms taking are more center stage in making plans for their big day. This has also seen the couple paying for their wedding with little or no support from their parents.
Although, the wedding celebration is about you and your spouse, it important to realize that it is special for your mother as well. Some brides may be tempted to cut their mothers off the wedding planning process, this can cause some feelings of hurt for your mother. Compromising maybe the best way for you to go about the making the wedding plans. This will help keep the peace and she gets to be involved even if it’s for brief episodes.
Below are tactics that will help you find some balance when making your wedding plans as well as involve your mother.
Appreciate Her Good Intentions
Start by appreciating your mom's good intentions but at the same time explain to her gently that you would like for her to play the role of a consultant. Make your mother understand that you have researched and have ideas on the wedding style that you want. You can then discuss the details with her.
Cautiously Set the Ground Rules
Make sure to cautiously talk to your mother; mind the words you use when talking to her to avoid hurting her feelings. Gently let her understand you are in charge of the planning and that her input is appreciated.
Every bride has a different idea of the type of wedding that they want. Be tolerant of your mother when she tries to model your wedding like what hers was like or even that of a relative she helped plan. Listen to her ideas before dismissing them, but treat it as a journey for both of you.
Be Ready To Compromise
Be ready to offer a part of your wedding plans to your mum to oversee. Let her know when you have the discussion on your wish to make the wedding plans alone.
Ask For Her Opinion
When your mother willingly agrees to let you make your own plans for the wedding, her input can be invaluable. Ask for her opinion when it comes to the choice of a wedding gown or ask her along to the cake testing. Make her feel part of the wedding process even when she was not planning the wedding for you.
Most mothers believe that they will be making wedding plans for their children, but that is not always the case. Nowadays couples prefer to make the wedding plans themselves and occasionally asking for their parent's opinions. Even when the planning for your big day is about you, it is important to recognize that it’s a special occasion for your mother as well. Appreciate and recognize she holds good intentions for you but gently and firmly set the ground rules. Be ready to compromise by letting your mother take care of a part of the wedding plans and do not hesitate to ask for her opinion when needed.