Questions to Ask Yourself Before Choosing Your Bridal Party
You asked the big question, and she said yes, now you want to plan your wedding and one of the things you must do is to choose the bridal party. Deciding on who is to be in your bridal party can be a difficult task at times. For you to select the right people for your bridal party requires you to strike a balance between your social obligations/status, duties to be performed and time.
But where do you begin when selecting your bridal party? Before you to choose your bridal party, ask yourself the following questions.
== Is he supportive of your choice of your spouse? ==
The role of your bridal party is to stand with you during your wedding ceremony as witnesses of your marriage and to offer you support on the most important day of your life.
Before you ask anyone to be part of your bridal party, ensure that they do not have any negative feeling to your choice of spouse. Because if any of your bridal party members have a negative opinion, even if that feeling has no ground, it will affect the other bridal party members and that is likely to impact your wedding day.
== Are you looking for “even sides?” ==
Are you asking someone to be part of your bridal party just to have even sides on your bridal party? Allow me to substantiate on what I mean by this. Let us say you have five groomsmen and six bridesmaids, are you just asking that guy to make up the number of your groomsmen?
You don’t have to ask someone to be in your bridal party just to “even” up the number. It is perfectly well to have more bridesmaid than groomsmen, one of the groomsmen can march twice and you guests won’t mind, make your wedding unique.
== Is he financially stable to contribute in your wedding? ==
Asking someone to be part of your bridal party carries with it a monetary obligation. They will be required to pay for their wedding day clothes and other accessories, transportation and a gift of marriage among other obligations.
Before you ask anybody to be a member of your bridal party, consider well their financial ability.
== Is he truly close to you? ==
By “close to you” I don’t mean an acquaintance or friends that you see once in a while, No. The person that should be in your bridal party is one who will stand up with you at your wedding and even after come what may. The only candidates that can do this are those that are near and closest to you.
Ask yourself before you invite anyone, “will this person always be available, does he have a reliable means of transport?”
If no is the answer to the above questions, then consider someone else.
== Are you returning a favour? ==
Are you inviting your workmate to your bridal party because he invited you to his? You do not have to do that; it is your day, don’t just pick someone to return a favour.
Choose your bridal party from your closest circle of friends hence make everything personal and meaningful.