When A Wedding Planner Plans Her Wedding - Page 3
When I told my parents about the possibility of doing a destination wedding, they weren’t very pleased. They said it would be twice as hard for our guests to come, and that the Catholic Church doesn’t allow beach weddings. It has to be in a church, or it wouldn’t be valid.
It is really hard to choose between the two options, as both suggestions come from both families. What do you guys think? A church wedding with a garden reception for 80pax or an intimate beach wedding of 30pax?
A wedding help at Alpadi Estate.
Wedding held at Modessa Island
Amidst the planning of our wedding, a tragedy struck. My fiancé's father died. Four days before my birthday last May, we received news about it. It was sudden and unexpected. It broke my fiancé's heart.
You see, 6 months before his father died, his grandmother died. His grandmother was the one who raised him, because his mother left abroad 16years ago and hasn't had the chance to come back.
All this heartbreak was too much so we paused for a bit with the wedding planning as i wanted him to grieve first. Also, we were opening a restaurant as well so i let him focus on one thing at a time to not overwhelm him.
Aside from this, we now have to deal with superstitions that his family believes. Here in the Philippines, we have this superstition called "Sukob sa Patay". Meaning if an immediate family member dies, no one in the family is allowed to get married within the same year, or else a curse will fall upon the couple to suffer a lot of misfortunes.
I personally do not believe this, but my fiancé doesn't want to take any chances. So we're already talking about a plan B, which is around June or July, still on the 15th.
My dad takes his leave from his work abroad by that time, school year for my younger siblings ends by July, it's his birthday month as well and more importantly it's at least a month after his father's death anniversary.
The only problem is, my best friend got married last year by June. The rainy season has already started and there was a storm at her wedding. She got married at the same venue i want and her set-up was affected.
She didn't have back-up tents, which is the most important part of a garden/open air wedding. The caterer had to re-do all the setup twice. Although the caterer (the company i used to work for) are already veterans when it comes to these situations, most of the staff were tired by the time the reception started. The sound system also had to re-do their setup where their equipment wouldn't get wet.
You will see the puddles of water from the rain. My bestfriend's wedding.
The entire setup was delayed, so the ceremony was delayed. This would mean that either you will have to pay extra for the venue rental, or you will have to cut short the program so you could finish fast.
My bestfriend was very calm and collected, but if it were me, i wouldn't want that much drama in my wedding. I might get a heart attack.
So the setting of the date is now back on, we start from scratch and hopefully finalize a date soon.
Well, we Chinese have a different tradition than yours, we believe that if a family member passed on, the couple will have to get married in 90 days or wait for 7 years to pass before they can get married. Most did it within 90 days.